Poll: What is your perspective on beauty and attraction? Are you insecure about your looks, or are you satisfied?

**Different** · Yesterday, 10:47 AM

Life is truly like a box of crayons - there’s something very special, pulchritudinous, and rare inside. It’s something that’s meant to be cherished for eternity. When we hear that statement, and we see things that are beautiful… then why can’t this align with 8 billion people in the world? Why can’t everyone be beautiful? You have a generic mix of beautiful and ugly people and because of this, people will always look at themselves in the mirror and disparage their looks compared to others. It seems like the genetic pool is heavily skewed across the world making it unfair for a wide range of people.

So is it unfair that the playing field is uneven? Yes. You have brighter and lighter skin color than me, your teeth are perfect, your facial features are symmetrical, your hair is straighter, and you have better looking facial tones than I do. It’s shit like this that drives insecurity into peoples’ minds placing a hideous stain on their personality, just like having a damn cavity in their mouths. It truly does put a bitter taste in a bunch of people’s mouths (not everyone) because they’re envious over things that others have, that they know they’ll never get. So what happens next? Plastic, freakin’ surgery. Just look at the Kardashians for cryin’ out loud.

You see, when we wake up in the morning everyday and look in the mirror, it’s very convenient to freakin’ call ourselves ugly as shit. Why is that? It’s because you’ve noticed some imperfections on your facial tones and features. You’ve noticed some ugly warts and zits that can’t come off, freckles, birthmarks, asymmetrical features, abnormally large/small nose, etc. I could go on and on. It gets worse when you start to compare yourself to others who have better looking symmetrical features, and even brighter and straighter teeth than you.

You can’t always reach in the box of cereal and expect to get the prize that you want. You can’t always expect to come out of your mother’s womb and turn out to be drop-dead gorgeous. Yes, there are times where some of you will be genetically disadvantaged compared to others, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t become the best version of yourself.

People will put beautiful people on a pedestal and worship the ground that they walk on because of how beautiful they are. Why do you think people like Taylor Swift gets worshipped? Sure, she can sing her ass off, but if she were hideous-looking then she would not be worth $1 billion. Humans will always, naturally desire things that are attractive and mesmerizing. That’s why we love artwork just like we desire attractive people.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - So who you think is beautiful, might not be beautiful to someone else. So with Taylor Swift and her swiftie fan base, I’m sure that a lot of them think that she’s model material. This is also because of her European features. A lot of people seem to be attracted to those who have European features with light/white-skin tones, pointy noses, etc. But then there are those who could care less for her.

Now exactly what is it that stains personalities and reputations? Hearing really awful and disparaging comments like this:

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You see, even though we’ve all heard disparaging and disrespectful comments like this in high school, they could still follow you into adulthood because to someone in life, you’re never good enough. So don’t squander your time trying to fix things that cannot be fixed just to please someone else. Kylie Jenner for an example, is highly insecure about her lips. I think they call them “lip injections”. She wanted thicker lips because she thought her lips were too thin based on other people’s comments.

Guys, when you see a beautiful woman for the first time, the first thing that you notice is her voluptuous body, her symmetrical facial features, her perfect skin tone, and her beautiful smile. If you’re smart, then your expectations of her should align with what’s on the inside as well as the outside. Her personality will hit a home run for years. However, if it’s just her looks that you’re investing into, and her personality and attitude is rotten, then you’re going to strike out, early… especially if you get married to her.

On average, there must be a sacrifice. You either sacrifice looks for a nearly impeccable personality, or a nearly flawless, 9.99/10 woman with a disgusting attitude. Choose your pick. You can’t have it all. If you do get it all, then there’s always going to be something lacking. In the next thread, we’ll discuss the problem with LUST.

**Delphinoid_** · Yesterday, 4:59 PM

I've been insecure about my appearance for a long time, I think it's possibly my biggest insecurity. Recently though I met a girl who genuinely thinks I'm attractive, and I guess as stupid as it is to say it's actually changed the way I see myself.

**Different** · Yesterday, 6:51 PM

(Yesterday, 4:59 PM)Delphinoid_ Wrote: I've been insecure about my appearance for a long time, I think it's possibly my biggest insecurity. Recently though I met a girl who genuinely thinks I'm attractive, and I guess as stupid as it is to say it's actually changed the way I see myself.

That’s great to hear that you’ve found somebody that thinks you’re attractive. There’s always somebody for everyone, you know. Now let me ask you this: does she make you happy and more confident about yourself?

**Master Raiden**

Yeah, looks are something we can't really change, but has a pretty big impact on our lives.

Good looking people are treated better because of the Halo Effect and tall people are more likely to hold leadership positions because they seem more authoritative. What you think of yourself also affects how you behave, so there's that as well.

**Mia** · Yesterday, 10:06 PM

I'm self conscious about my skin condition because I feel like it makes me unattractive. My fiancé keeps reassuring me and saying I look amazing and its not that noticeable, so that has helped quite a bit.

Poll: What is your perspective on beauty and attraction? Are you insecure about your looks, or are you satisfied? You do not have permission to vote in this poll.
I would say that I’m satisfied with my facial features.	0%	0	0%
I’m a little insecure about my facial features. I could use some improvements here and there.	0%	0	0%
I’m a little satisfied about my looks, but I’m also aware that I can’t change the way I look to compete with other beautiful people in the world. Therefore, I just accept the way that I am.	100.00%	1	100.00%
I’m very insecure about my looks. I’ve also thought about plastic surgery.	0%	0	0%
I could care less about beauty and attraction. If someone calls me ugly, so what. I’m not concerned with what others think of me.	0%	0	0%
I’m heavily affected by others calling me ugly. It’s just cruel and it leaves an ugly stain on my social life.	0%	0	0%
Total		1 vote(s)	100%