15th February 2024, 10:45 AM
(15th February 2024, 12:56 AM)Overbeing Wrote: Someone I dont know and dont care about could never disrespect me in a way that I'd care about. It would just be assault.
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The ultimate disrespect is betraying my trust. And someone I dont know or care about cant do that to me.
Those are pretty powerful statements coming from you. This is how you control your anger, which at least 80 - 90% of people fail, universally. Believe it or not, a lot of people regardless of whether you're a stranger or not, would figure out a way to label the Dead Man's Hand as a display of disrespectful tactics depending on the circumstance. Sexual assault is definitely part of this situation as well.
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Since you said "The ultimate disrespect is betraying my trust"... where exactly do you place yourself on the anger tolerance meter? Would you address the issue while your emotions are at the boiling point, frustration occurs, or being calm about it when it comes to receiving disrespect from your partner?
(15th February 2024, 12:56 AM)Overbeing Wrote: The ultimate for me has more to do with my relationship to that person. It is lying, but in the big way. Or talking poorly about me behind my back. Stealing from me, breaking trust, ignoring my boundries and taking actions that directly harm me, violence included.
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I have been sexually harassed and sexually assaulted. The ones from strangers didnt matter. The one that mattered was from a partner who did that to me.
So, let's say money is the biggest issue here, and the violence just happens to be repeated slaps because as you know, if you don't address the issue probably (and I'm not saying hit the girl), then it continues to happen. In other words, multiple boundaries are crossed by your partner even though you've warned them about it, but the behavior persists.
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The sexual assaults from strangers didn't matter? Really? Wow, that's a big one. These sexual assaults could be related to grabbing your ass, touching your genitals, etc. Bro if that were me, I'd consider that to be disrespectful. That's when you let them know what the deal is and warn them about what's going to happen if the behavior persists.
