22nd April 2023, 2:41 PM
(This post was last modified: 22nd April 2023, 2:53 PM by Subside. Edited 2 times in total.)
@Different Disciplining a child, physically for bad behavior isn't the answer. Not only is it going to force the child to resent their parents one day, it'll make them run away from home because of this. If you're so worried about your child acting out and being disrespectful towards you, then the problem is most likely you and the way you're raising your child.
I think we can all agree that you think that the only method used to discipline a child is to spank or hit them because that's how you were raised. Don't you think you could benefit from talking to a therapist or psychologist who could help guide you towards some different forms of discipline that don't involve a child resenting you?
Man, my ex-girlfriend used to hit her child for some petty shit in front of me, and I couldn't stand it. So, I told her ass off because it was child abuse.
On the other hand, I think you need to consider some important quotes from this article first, before you decide to play the victim and pretend that you weren't having biased opinions based on children being disciplined:
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/05/physical-discipline
Here's some important quotes from this article will help you understand my perspective:
"Researchers found that spanking can elevate a child's aggression levels as well as diminish quality of the parent-child relationship."
"Parents who use physical discipline may be teaching their child to resolve conflicts with physical aggression."
"The purpose of this resolution is to promote effective forms of discipline for parents that don't contribute to antisocial behaviors, aggression and trust issues." "Children do not need pain to learn," -Gershoff
"Physical discipline does not improve behavior and can lead to emotional, behavioral and academic problems over time, even after race, gender and family socioeconomic status have been statistically controlled."
"Rather, parents need to give their children guidance about what to do differently, what is known as "time out from positive reinforcement (TOPR)." This technique makes time-out an opportunity to regroup and think about how to do better next time."
Also, THIS is what happens when parents get carried away with disciplining their child. If you'll notice, the boy had disciplinary issues because of his mother deciding to discipline him with an electric cord instead of giving him a simple timeout or seeking counseling.
So, yeah man. I'm curious to know what you think of this.
I think we can all agree that you think that the only method used to discipline a child is to spank or hit them because that's how you were raised. Don't you think you could benefit from talking to a therapist or psychologist who could help guide you towards some different forms of discipline that don't involve a child resenting you?
Man, my ex-girlfriend used to hit her child for some petty shit in front of me, and I couldn't stand it. So, I told her ass off because it was child abuse.
On the other hand, I think you need to consider some important quotes from this article first, before you decide to play the victim and pretend that you weren't having biased opinions based on children being disciplined:
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/05/physical-discipline
Here's some important quotes from this article will help you understand my perspective:
"Researchers found that spanking can elevate a child's aggression levels as well as diminish quality of the parent-child relationship."
"Parents who use physical discipline may be teaching their child to resolve conflicts with physical aggression."
"The purpose of this resolution is to promote effective forms of discipline for parents that don't contribute to antisocial behaviors, aggression and trust issues." "Children do not need pain to learn," -Gershoff
"Physical discipline does not improve behavior and can lead to emotional, behavioral and academic problems over time, even after race, gender and family socioeconomic status have been statistically controlled."
"Rather, parents need to give their children guidance about what to do differently, what is known as "time out from positive reinforcement (TOPR)." This technique makes time-out an opportunity to regroup and think about how to do better next time."
Also, THIS is what happens when parents get carried away with disciplining their child. If you'll notice, the boy had disciplinary issues because of his mother deciding to discipline him with an electric cord instead of giving him a simple timeout or seeking counseling.
So, yeah man. I'm curious to know what you think of this.
