20th October 2023, 11:50 PM
(This post was last modified: 21st October 2023, 1:51 AM by Delphinoid_. Edited 2 times in total.)
You don't need anyone's permission. If she doesn't know what's best for you or what would enable you to live a happy and fulfilling life (which seems to be the case from what I've heard about her, along with the implication here that she hasn't given any convincing reasoning for why you should stay in a job you don't like), then there's no reason to even take what she says into consideration.
I suspect maybe you're afraid that she or your father could do something if you don't obey them - are you worried that they'll kick you out of the house, or perhaps that your parents will harm you, themselves or others? In these kinds of situations it's genuinely hard, but not hopeless. If you plan for the worst (for instance you can make arrangements to move out, which would probably be a good idea regardless given your family circumstances; since you do already have a job you might already be in a good place to afford a cheap apartment), then anything they do is their responsibility that they alone will have to face the consequences for.
When you have a family like this, I think it's important to slowly distance yourself from them. It's not easy, but I think you have to try.
I suspect maybe you're afraid that she or your father could do something if you don't obey them - are you worried that they'll kick you out of the house, or perhaps that your parents will harm you, themselves or others? In these kinds of situations it's genuinely hard, but not hopeless. If you plan for the worst (for instance you can make arrangements to move out, which would probably be a good idea regardless given your family circumstances; since you do already have a job you might already be in a good place to afford a cheap apartment), then anything they do is their responsibility that they alone will have to face the consequences for.
When you have a family like this, I think it's important to slowly distance yourself from them. It's not easy, but I think you have to try.
